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Gratitude + Generosity. How and when do you express it?By Laurie Rosenfeld
First, I want to thank everyone who has been reading, commenting, liking, tweeting, and sharing my posts. I am so grateful for your interest and engagement. I have spoken to a number of people who are reading it and giving me positive feedback. And I am so glad for that because otherwise I only know you’re reading if you leave a comment.
And speaking of comments, maybe it’s because I am a newbie blogger, but I am just giddy every time my blog receives a new comment! I think about each one and reply back with care. I am going to date myself here, but it reminds me of the old days of letter-writing (does anyone do this anymore?). I can still vividly remember the anticipation of awaiting letters from friends who moved away, summer camp friends, or boys I liked . . . and the thrill of going to the mailbox and reading those handwritten letters.
There is something about blog comments that mirrors the handwritten letter. Someone took the time to let me know how my writing and ideas impacted them. What was sparked. What they plan to do next. What questions emerged.
I have been thinking lately about my own commenting and sharing philosophy. I am active on social media and these days I am all about expressing my gratitude. If someone says or does something that moves me in some way, I try to let them know. I reply to their newsletter, comment on their blog, “like” or share their post, tweet a thank- you, send an email, or simply thank them for the quality of being they bring to the world. Life is short and I have not done this nearly enough. How do you handle this?
I have also been paying attention to ways I can be generous offline and the ways other people express their generosity and gratitude.
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Last week I spent 90 minutes on a call with a lawyer who is writing a book for and about lawyers and the Enneagram. He invited me to be interviewed months ago and we finally got to do it last week. I have no idea what will come of it. It was fun to meet someone new, help out and have a fascinating conversation in the process. I even received some interesting feedback which I will share in another post.
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This weekend I helped a friend who is separating from her husband move out of her marital home and into her new home. Let me just say that at 4’11” and weighing in at less than 100 pounds, I am not a physical powerhouse. I was not able to do much heavy lifting. And I felt badly about that. I kept wishing I was stronger, that I could offer more value. But I was there for moral support. I picked up food and drinks for everyone, I held doors, I watched the truck and the items in the staging area, and I put clothing away. While my focus was on how little I was able to do, she kept thanking me for every bit I could offer. And she had so many people helping her out of the sheer goodness of their hearts. It was a lovely example of generosity and gratitude at its finest.
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I was on the phone recently with a colleague from Minneapolis. The topic turned to an Enneagram intensive that will be happening in St. Paul in November. To my surprise, my colleague offered to put me up and arrange for transportation to the training site if I decided to attend. What generosity! I had been on the fence and this offer pushed me over the edge. I registered last week and am looking so forward to this trip. More on this in a future post. (I am fast realizing I might never run out of blog content!)
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There are so many ways that generosity and gratitude show up every day. We have opportunities to practice and thank others every moment. I am paying extra special attention to this lately because I see correlations between generosity and gratitude and my overall energy and ability to create.
So, tell me . . . how do you express your gratitude? How does your generosity show up? Do you have story to share about how someone’s generosity or gratitude affected you?
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